Wednesday, May 20, 2015

WE ARE BETTER

Earlier this month two separate and very different incidents took place in Kaitaia that portrayed the best and the worst of our rangatahi.  They also brought out and reflected the best and worst amongst the adults of our town.

On Thursday 7th a video was posted to facebook showing a female student in Kaitaia College uniform assaulting a smaller girl who was clearly special needs.  Just as bad as the assault, if not worse, were some of the comments made by a very few local adults judging and threatening violence against the violator. 

Most of us chose not to share that video or to comment on it.  Instead we contacted the Board of Trustees, the Principal and the Police and left them to do their jobs.  Then we did our jobs to promote changing the narrative from one of fear and hatred to one of tika pono and aroha.

On the same day that assault happened, I was in a local shop when an older woman came in just before it was due to close.  Very unsteady on her feet and smelling strongly of alcohol, she struggled to enter her eftpos PIN and pay for her purchases.

Two young men behind her in school uniform asked, "Are you OK whaea?" She reckoned she was and kept trying but was getting flustered.  The lady behind the counter said, "It's alright whaea, no hurry."  Then another young couple said, "Whaea we can pay for it." She insisted, "No, no, I got the money."   And sure enough the payment went through. We all smiled.

I offered to take her to her next destination, but she said no she was OK and off she went, unsteady but dignified by what had just happened. We all were. And it started with those two rangatahi.

The next day someone started a thread on facebook of “praise and aroha for our tamariki … to focus our attention on all those cool kids out there [who] far outnumber those children that have temporarily lost their way.”

People posted with love and pride about their students and their children, including the youth who was recently honoured for saving someone from drowning, the many rangatahi who attended recent ANZAC Day commemorations around the district, and the Kaitaia College students who are organising a pink shirt mufti day with an anti-bullying theme for the upcoming Youth Week.

Since then, the new College Principal has communicated his thanks to a community that has responded with our best to the assault.  In return I record our thanks to a Principal who has shown he is open to our tikanga support.
 
Our society is made worse by the kino narrative that is too often whipped up on social media, or between different peoples.  It is made better by the higher narrative of faith, hope and love in thought, word and action.

In my heart I know we all have it in us to do and be better, because at heart we are better.

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